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Gay sex can be more complicated than a Grey鈥檚 Anatomy season 12 plot line (actually any Grey鈥檚 Anatomy plot line).

With an unending list of niches and seemingly unlimited kinks to explore, it can be both incredibly exciting and overwhelming at the same time.

The latest 鈥渢hing鈥� people are now branding themselves is G0Y.

G0Ys are men who are attracted to men, but don鈥檛 wish to be called gay as they reject anal sex and femininity (the 鈥淎鈥� in gay stands for 鈥渁nal,鈥� they claim on their website).

Critics are saying it鈥檚 a new way of bottom shaming. I agree, there鈥檚 a difference between not wanting to bottom, and thinking it is disgusting. One is normal and doesn鈥檛 need a new term; the other is a serious form of internalised homophobia that makes my skin crawl.

However, the G0Y trend has got me thinking about anal sex. Stay with me and let me explain.

听All my life, I鈥檝e mostly been a bottom, but in the last year something has changed within me, something is not the same. A 鈥渨icked鈥� swap from bottom to top has me confused as to what position I like more.

With Miss Rona keeping me in isolation, I鈥檝e been driven further away from wanting to bottom. I can鈥檛 decide whether I鈥檓 out of practice, don鈥檛 want to douche, or scared of catching COVID-19. But someone鈥檚 got to bottom, right?

The ancient Greeks and Romans had similar attitudes towards gay sex as these G0Y boys.

Different writers, and different periods of time, produce varied accounts, but generally if you were the top and you were having anal sex with a younger person, or a slave, then it was seen as good fun. If you were the bottom… I think it was Plato that defined it as 鈥測uk.鈥�

The same attitude has trickled down to today.

听I recently broke it off with a guy because he wouldn鈥檛 even let me touch his butt. He couldn鈥檛 get enough of mine, but the second I even lightly grazed one of his cheeks, he would jump up and reiterate that he doesn鈥檛 like anal.

When a top turns his nose up at receiving anal sex, when he hasn鈥檛 even given it a proper go himself, it makes you feel like a dumpster… yes that type of dumpster. But on the other hand, what happens when you get too many bottoms?

It鈥檚 said that 鈥淪ydney is full of bottoms鈥� but I鈥檓 always shocked when I find out there are two bottoms in a relationship.

Of course, sex isn鈥檛 the be all and end all in a relationship, and there are many creative solutions in the realm of gay sex. But I don鈥檛 want to be doing 鈥渞ock, paper, scissors鈥� whenever I want to have sex with my partner.

The G0Y trend is ridiculous. Even though I don鈥檛 like bottoming at the moment, it doesn鈥檛 mean I don鈥檛 identify as GAY, or disrespect those who do love bottoming. Someone has to do it.
Maybe I鈥檒l give it a go again when COVID-19 restrictions ease.

For now, back to Grey鈥檚 Anatomy.