A question has weighed on the minds of gay men since the dawn of homosexual time: why are hot guys such assholes?
Now, I鈥檓 not saying all hot guys are assholes 鈥� I鈥檒l get to that later 鈥� but I think it is very fair to say that a majority of attractive men are assholes, pigs and jerks.
This is what I call the 鈥榟ottie-to-asshole ratio鈥� 鈥� the more attractive a man is, the more likely he is to be an asshole.
鈥淏ut they are hot, they can afford to be assholes,鈥� you say to yourself.
Sorry, but just because someone has abs doesn鈥檛 mean they are incapable of manners.
Unfortunately, I have experienced this firsthand.
This cute guy, ripped as anything, walked up to me in a bar. We started chatting, having a drink, and I found we had surprisingly a lot in common. Suddenly he said 鈥淵uck,鈥� as a boy walked past him.
At first I didn鈥檛 really pay too much attention 鈥� until I realised the boy who walked past us was also an old friend of mine.
When I asked this guy why he said, 鈥淵uck鈥�, his answer was, 鈥淚 hate short guys, they are ugly鈥�.
If I鈥檓 able to look over the fact that you measure your success in pressed kilos, then I think you could cut this kid some slack.
He had never been rude to you, didn鈥檛 even look at you, yet you felt the need, due to your supposed 鈥榟eightened鈥� superiority, to rip on this kid.
There are of course exceptions to this rule. I have met some hotties who are quite decent people 鈥� the boy who doesn鈥檛 fit this theory at all, the guy who finds the balance between being attractive and not being an asshole.
They have personality, charisma, and a cute face to match.
Sigh 鈥� gotta get me one of those.
By JESSE MATHESON
sooooo true… to the point where if someone starts talking to me and they’re “toned/buff, ripped” – whatever we shall call it… i get immediately turned off and tend not to engage…
guess that makes me a jerk too… vicious cycle this is isnt it!
Unfortunately projection of our self loathing, especially when young is a hard one to miss.
You might find the most insecure, and via projection potentially toxic, are those you might consider, ‘ripped’; they tend to validate their insecurity with an over-emphasis on body-this can take many forms, for example steroid use and eating disorders. Unfortunately exaggerated body forms have been re-enforced by Gay media since BG (before Gay).
Then again, there are good looking guys that are…nice.