Since January 15, Redheads —the manufacturer of Redheads Matches —havebeen conducting a competition to find the best re-imagining of its iconicbox design. The competition has given equal marriage rights advocatesan opportunity to send an equality message into shops acrossAustralia.
Troy Simpson submitted a design that shows Ms Redheads holding arainbow torch (pictured above), and today he writes about why marriage equality matters.
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MARRIAGE equality matters.
It matters because equality under the law matters. My exclusive, committed relationship with the adult I love is no different in any relevant way from the exclusive, committed relationship that two heterosexual adults may have. Children cannot be a relevant difference since infertile couples and people who choose not to have children can still marry.
Yet my relationship is treated differently. Heterosexuals can marry and I cannot. This is basic unfairness. What is a first order priority of government if it’s not to address basic unfairness?
The unfairness is not merely abstract or theoretical. The status of marriage automatically confers certain legal rights. Marriage makes people happier and healthier. Married people live longer than single people.
Conversely, unequal treatment harms people. Gay people are still sometimes seen as broken, or deficient, or lacking. Marginalisation, discrimination, and demonisation have harmful psychological impacts on people — and harmful physical impacts, too, especially for young people coming to terms with their sexuality. Young gay men and women are four or five times more likely to attempt suicide. Some of the stigma will lift once marriage equality is introduced. Recognising same-sex marriage will make us feel good about ourselves.
Marriage equality matters to families and society more broadly. If marriage confers benefits and protections to heterosexuals and their children, by fostering cohesion and stability, then why deny those benefits to children of gay parents? Longterm, stable, monogamous relationships are good for society. If same-sex marriage makes such relationships more common, then same-sex marriage is pro-family. Marriage equality is as much a capital-C conservative thing to do as it is a small-L liberal thing to do.
I’m impatient for marriage equality. I’ve been advocating for same-sex marriage since 1997, when I participated in a First Steps program run by the AIDS Action Council in Canberra. I’m impatient because there’s no logical reason why we must wait any longer.
Last year, the High Court unanimously and unambiguously gave the Federal Parliament the power to legislate with respect to same-sex marriage. The old excuse (and feigned concern) that gay people might enter marriages that are later found invalid is gone.
And no longer is the Coalition bound by any pre-election promise to keep the one-man, one-woman definition of marriage that John Howard introduced in 2004. In short, there are no excuses left to deny marriage equality. Parliament has the ability to introduce same-sex marriage; all it needs is the will.
The argument that equality must wait for the economy to be fixed is also unconvincing. Same-sex marriage will be a boon to the economy. When Tony Abbott inexplicably reintroduced knights and dames, he said his government can do several things at once. The same is true with marriage equality. Something as fundamental as equality should wait for nothing.
The government won’t act because they don’t see votes in marriage equality. Prime Minister Tony Abbott, a Roman Catholic, opposes gay marriage on religious grounds. He believes marriage is only between a man and a woman. But religious marriage is different from civil marriage.
If enough people, including people from corporate Australia, publicly support marriage equality, then it would be defused politically. Even Tony Abbott’s “principles” will yield to pragmatism. The way forward is for Abbott to allow his MPs a conscience voteon the issue in parliament. If Abbott can exercise his conscience, then it’s fair that his MPs be allowed to exercise theirs.
That’s why it’s important to publicly support marriage equality.
That’s why it’s important to vote every day for my Redheads re-design.Judges will adjudicate three entries for cash prizes, while the publicwill choose the most popular design. Although no cash prize will be awardedfor the public choice, winner of that category is worth much more than money. If my design wins the popular vote, Redheads will print it on limitedrelease matchboxes.
Ms Redheadshas a chance to become a positive symbol of liberty and a mascot for marriage equality.
You can vote for Troy Simpson’s marriage equality design for Redheads every day from now untilmidnight, April 11.His design has already received over 2000 votes, but faces stiff competition. To vote, visit.
Look sister, I feel for ya, but don’t ask permission, marry in New Zealand! Marriage is 99 percent about your community, your partner, family, and great friends. Abbott is not your community, not involved in your life, and has no say over if you marry, just where, sort of.
Most celebrants from New Zealand will even come to Australia, for a small fee, so you can repeat your ceremony. Great, right? A few hours flight and you’re married. Have a reception in Australia for a larger group of people. When I married, everyone treated us as married. My community felt pride, yours can to. Lots of straight folk marry overseas anyways. So you can put your life energy, and it will run out at some point, into getting hot and flustered, or you can just damn marry.
I don’t think of myself as not married, neither does my beloved, or our family. Even neighbours gave gifts, but I live in the country, hours away from the big smoke. If even my Mormon neighbours gave gifts. My beloveds CEO is not the best cook, so it was a huge effort for her to bake a special cake for us, and get a BBQ happening. People were so happy for us, all straight good folk, some Catholic, some not. The point is, it is your life, marry if you want, now. The Labor Mobsters just put in Bullock in WA, who said he would never vote for equality. You can wait years for the mess of the Labor and Liberal Party, or just grab your beloved and book flights.
To those interested, it takes 3 business days for the certificate. It cost around 40 dollars. You must have the location, two witnesses, and the name of the celebrant on the form. We looked at Google Earth, and found a nice spot. Best day of my life! Could easily be the best day of your life.
The link to the Marriage Amendment Bill 2014 No. , 2014:
Amendment of the Marriage Act 1961 Schedule 1
Marriage Amendment Bill 2014 No. , 2014 3
Schedule 1—Amendment of the Marriage Act 1 1961 2
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1 Subsection 5(1) (definition of marriage) 4
Repeal the definition, substitute: 5
marriage means the union of two people, regardless of their sex, to 6 the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life. 7
2 Subsection 46(1) 8
Omit “a man and a woman”, substitute “two people”. 9
3 Section 47 10
After paragraph (a), insert: 11
(aa) imposes an obligation on an authorised celebrant, being a 12 minister of religion, to solemnise a marriage where the 13 parties to the marriage are of the same sex; or 14
4 Section 88EA 15
Repeal the section. 16
5 Part III of the Schedule (table item 1) 17
Omit “a husband and wife”, substitute “two people”.
“Young gay men and women are four or five times more likely to attempt suicide. Some of the stigma will lift once marriage equality is introduced. Recognising same-sex marriage will make us feel good about ourselves.”
That’s what they said 30 years ago when we were demanding the government get their laws OFF of our lives. Why didn’t decriminalisation deliver all it promised? But that’s propaganda for you. It’s narcissism that’s driving this marriage propaganda and it wont make a dent in the suicide stats.
In a world where all people are treated equal, things like marriage should be negligible. If marriage does confer certain “benefits and protections” then that’s privilege, which is the opposite of equality.
There is no good reason to deny we must keep evolving until an adult, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, religion, monogamy, or polyamory is free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage (or any of those without the others) with any & all consenting adults, without prosecution, bullying, or discrimination. The limited same-gender freedom to marry is a great step, but it is not full marriage equality. Stand up for every adult’s right to marry any consenting adult(s). Get on the right side of history!
Great stuff Troy. The more people that get behind things like this the more our voices will be heard. You have my vote.