‘Life is hard having a small dick in the gay community’
I always knew my dick was small. My family used to tease me about it when I was young… my aunty used to call my dick ‘cashew’. Yet it wasn’t until my teens that I became aware of what it truly meant.
I held out hope that I would hit a growth spurt in my late teens. It never came. My dick remains about 4.5 inches when hard.
Honestly, it has never stopped me from having a relatively healthy sex life, and I have had several long term relationships. They ultimately came undone by my own insecurities, or my partners cheating on me…
I haven’t been in a relationship in a couple of years. Part of me thinks it is because of my small dick. The amount of times I’ve had a guy really interested in me only to change his tune after we finally had sex.
At times it is聽really hard living and socialising in the gay community, which seems to be so obsessed with the size of one’s cock. I’m not gonna lie, I love a big cock myself. Though I don’t mind smaller-average penises, too.
These days it’s so unacceptable to judge anybody about their physical appearance, but for some reason it is still perfectly acceptable to tease a man about the size of his appendage. There’s nothing a man can do about the size of his dick – it’s not like being uneducated, or overweight. It is completely down to genetics, and we are given what we are born with.
It’s heartbreaking to know that people are most likely talking about you behind your back. How do I know? Because I’ve heard them do it about other guys with larger dicks. It goes without saying that they’re doing it about me, too.
I wish I didn’t care but I feel like it has an impact on my life every day. It plays on my mind constantly, even when I am at work, at the shopping centre, at the gym – everywhere.
I know not every guy is a size queen, but it definitely feels like the majority are. Hopefully one day I’ll meet a guy with a good heart who knows you don’t need a huge cock to have fun in bed.
Most guys don’t know how to correctly measure their members. As a result, dating sites are full of guys embellishing their manhood size. I have had guys tell me my member is at least 9″ which is simply not true. Actually it’s officially 7.5″ and thick. I am a short and slim guy who is 167cm/5’6″ tall that also has the unfortunate illusion of making it look even larger than it is. In my experience, this is not a good thing.
I have met so many guys that have either been jealous of my size, which has destroyed the relationship or simply won’t bottom for me. I had one guy on a date that loved it, wanted to perform oral, but explicitly refused to remove his pants because, “there was no way that would fit”. This guy was 6 feet tall and I found out later, he was also quite experienced… if you catch my drift.
So because of so many disappointments, my self-esteem has taken such a beating I just don’t date anymore. Sad, but true. So in a way I am experiencing the same issue, just at the opposite end of the scale. To make things worse, I myself don’t like big ones. Not because of competition or envy, I simply can’t bottom for them (I’m vers).
Lets use an example of a car to make this statement a bit more G-rated. There are different sized cars and also different sized garages. I just have to find an accommodating garage for my larger car and also hope he ‘drives’ a right sized car that can fit in my garage. As others here have posted. Love is the most important ingredient to love making. It is also important to know how to use it. Regardless of size!
Where out thou man of my dreams?
I do like a cut and well hung man, its just my personal preference and I am ok with that.
I think the author is brave to speak of this. I also am not overly endowed and am also uncut. Many do not like the uncut side of me but personally i like it. I am often embarrassed because of size but I am going with what I’ve got.
For what it’s worth, I’m someone who is average sized but absolutely detests big dicks. Literally a turn off. Give me an average or (preferably) smaller guy ANY day. There – I said it. There are plenty of guys out there like me. I only wish they were more vocal so guys like this don’t ever feel bad about something I consider pretty damned sexy.
Some gay guys are so insure about themselves they will find any fault in anyone which is just a po or reflection about themselves. I am glad you wrote this article because the obsession of gay men with the size of male genetalia and its size in connection to virility or masculinity is utterly misguided. So there it is the visual aspect… on the practical aspect (i only speak for myself), i would rather not feel the pain and suffering that sometimes goes with a large member.
Sex Is not sensational. People thing the genitals are about sex, but sex is primarily an activity of the heart, the genitals are just a tool for this. Many great esoteric teaching explain this. The heart can be stimulated even more by the yielding over of the more vulnerable organs. People are awake that promiscuity based on image and organ leads to coldness and a superficial way. Thus small penis folk – let it be your radar. “Stimulate my heart, and then ONLY if your worthy may you have my tiny surprise!” – When did the point of view of the observer which is a Miriad of mad many points of view, undermine your value? Your heart? You ability to connect and give love?
Hey! Hey! I say!
Know your value. It’s in like the morning Rose bud – no pun intended.
Love love love
I applaud you writing this article. I totally understand and feel your pain. I cannot agree more with what the author courageously wrote.
I have a 7 inch cut cock when erect.
Fot 11 years now erections are far and between, unless I am asleep.
Doctors tell me this due to the meds I take for epilipsy.
Fine, but I only can bottom, which is fine by me.
Hi I hope my partner won’t mind me saying this but his cock wouldn’t win prizes if it was only about size but it isn’t. We have been together now almost sixteen years and frankly I wouldn’t change the size of his cock even it it were possible. Why? Because it’s what he can do with what he has that matters and believe me after so many years I really do know what he can do :-} 鈥� enough said.
I understand completely. Mine is what they call “a grower, not a shower.” It’s about 5 inches when hard, and suitably thick, but pretty small when soft. When I’m at “clothing optional” events, I opt for shorts or swimming trunks. I probably wouldn’t be so modest if I had something that actually hung down, but my dick does not.
Like the author here, I’ve had a couple of wonderful long-term relationships. But my self-esteem is affected by the fact that seemingly all Gay men are size queens.