Comments on: The unspoken truths about gay dating

By: Ben

Ben — Tue, 18 Oct 2016 01:00:04 +0000

Thoroughly enjoyed reading this article!
I had an experience of being asked to go for a catch up on a beach, at a lunch table. I was seeing it as a “get-to-know-you” session (unsure whether it was 100% dating or not as it was more like 2 way rather than 1 way thinking). The whole time, I was one talking and sharing things, the guy across the table simply listened and kept smiling (which was nice regardless). But whenever I asked him questions, his very limited word count in each of his replies was like squeezing toothpaste out really hard before it almost ran out. Now I think, a true feeling of being 100% connected or on the same page in a conversation (regardless who talks more who talks less), is very very IMPORTANT – it is a feeling you get quite easily, so feel relaxed and follow your gut feeling. Think this is just one of people who walk past or may stop by you like those in a railway station. There are more to come, so, be yourself, and take it as an experience if it doesn’t turn out to be a romance you expect.
I agree with the second part of article: I have met those who don’t intentionally “dress to impress” but end up in a relationship they are still very happy about. What looks on the outside doesn’t necessarily give you any bonus in increasing the chance of finding a long term partner. They may look at you for a few more seconds, have a chat with you longer, but you may still end up being single after all these. A natural you at the get-go is making everything easy in the first place, not just for you but also for the person you date.

By: Scott

Scott — Mon, 17 Oct 2016 09:41:02 +0000

In reply to Steve. "I’ll tell you that it’s extremely hard to meet someone in Sydney who’s financially secure..,got their own home,..a car, a permanent full-time job…and a future plan for retirement…and most of all wanting a relationship...not an open one…." Welcome to Sydney. And with a shopping list like that, it sounds like you'll fit in just fine.

By: harley

harley — Mon, 17 Oct 2016 06:50:59 +0000

I’m not sure what Steve wants, a two house couple, a two car couple… really it’s just a tad of excessive consumption.

If all parties to a relationship have to have assets, then polyamoury make a huge amount of sense.

By: Steve

Steve — Sat, 15 Oct 2016 21:47:44 +0000

An amazing story and so true,Thankyou.
As a single man I have noticed that there are just too many men not interested in a relationship let alone a friendship.
It’s extremely hard to meet someone as their so extremely descrete and not wanting anyone to know that their gay,I’ll give you an example,most men who haunt gay apps are looking for “straight-acting” in other words so they don’t attract suspicion about their sexuality.
I’ve noticed also that the mindset for gay men is how they are wired now is for chat/meet/blowNgo..
It’s so true and our community is set for disaster,why?
In older age (If you make it as our Community never talks about it) there’s going to be a lot of lonely gay men.
Secondly there is a HUGE CATASTOPHE looming for single gay people.
Another topic that is ignored….
Housing! With the “Now In LIfestyle” of being single/Gay/descrete,how in 2016 and beyond is the average single gay person being able to buy a home?
Let alone retire after working for a lifetime?
I have learned that there is a huge number of single gay men in their late 30’s & 40’s who have nothing,no car,hardly any savings,and if their lucky maybe a car.
This has been my experience on “Dates” I seem to meet men who think it’s funny and their life is ok.
The last 2 guys I have met it has been a disaster for me,the first had pending Court Appearences,the other major problems with his family,and yes both broke…
I’ll tell you that it’s extremely hard to meet someone in Sydney who’s financial secure,got their own home,a car,a permanant full-time job…and a future plan for retirement…and most of all wanting a relationship..not an open one….
If we don’t stall talking about the Gay Community Investing in the future,when the lights come the party will be over!
Thanks

By: Michael

Michael — Sat, 15 Oct 2016 02:22:26 +0000

There are so many attractive guys out in the scene globally that monogamy can be hard to maintain…