I often wonder where people go when they get into relationships. Is there a void they fall into or is it a case of temporary friendship amnesia?
It鈥檚 normal to be caught up in the excitement of meeting someone and spending lots of time with them, but I think it鈥檚 unreasonable to ignore friends, family and others 鈥� only to expect them to be there when the honeymoon ends.
My friend has recently returned to contact after being with his boyfriend for nearly two years. It wasn鈥檛 a volatile separation as friends, but disappointed I was.
I鈥檝e noticed people do it frequently, I think I understand why they do it, yet I don鈥檛 appreciate it.
Maybe because I have the boys every second weekend, perhaps I don鈥檛 get the chance to fall into a relationship two feet first. I鈥檝e often wondered if that was a saving grace for me?
Another mate told me recently that he was excited to be starting a new relationship and that they spent four days over the weekends together. I paused as I took a sip of my wine. I wasn鈥檛 envious. Quietly I was thankful I don鈥檛 have that commitment of time.
I was happy for him, but also provided my opinion on space 鈥� I can鈥檛 help it, I鈥檝e seen some friends disappear into the void of another person. Had they become merged with the new toy or did they become their own person with just more time consumed? Only they will know I guess.
I have been spending some of my own time with someone recently and I though I remain cognisant of the investment I have with friends, I still received a margin call the other day from Rosanna.
It鈥檚 perspective of change I guess. I鈥檝e seen her regularly but perhaps the depth of catch up isn鈥檛 the same in her mind, maybe it鈥檚 psychosomatic 鈥� or worse, maybe I have been missing?
Either way, it鈥檚 nice to know people miss each other. They have been used to seeing you lots and then you鈥檙e gone.
Take it as a compliment.
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