As many of you know, I have thrown myself into dating. I have met some very nice boys, but there is a common thread that seems to be floating to the surface. Internal homophobia is huge in our community.
I鈥檓 sure we all have our sexual preferences. Its only human when we see something we like, all the bells and whistles go off. But should you consider their personality.
I鈥檝e had the pleasure of meeting some hot boys, and there are times where they鈥檝e opened their mouths and become instantly unattractive. Does everyone get an equal chance?
Those who seem to get hit hardest are Asian gay boys. 鈥楴O GAMS鈥� or 鈥楴O RICE鈥� is a common profile inclusion. Is there a reason why it has to be stated?聽 Its dreadful;, demeaning and unecessary. A simple no thanks shoudl suffice.
鈥楴O FATS鈥� or 鈥楴O FEMS鈥� is also common, as is 鈥楽TRAIGHT ACTING鈥�, which actually makes me laugh. Please!
Shouldn鈥檛 you just act like yourself? I鈥檓 me; I have shaved head and tattoos, but I squeal when I鈥檓 scared or when聽 I hear a good song. Does that mean I鈥檓 gay acting?
But it is on the actual date the real colours tend to shine through. People love to hate: they hat Oxford St; they hate the scene; they hate drag queens; they hate .. hate … hate …
What happened to all the love?
These things have been said to me on quitea聽 few dates now – and I still don鈥檛 understand it.
Most of the time I don鈥檛 let on what I do for a living (10 years full-time, it鈥檚 a living). I like to let them get to know me first, not judge me on my job. It seems that many boys have been programmed to hate drag queens, yet they are friends with most showgirls on the strip and always have a laugh when with them. But when asked, they pull out the 鈥楧on鈥檛 like them鈥� from stock file.
Is there too much hate in our own community? I understand we cant love everyone but how hard is it to give others a little respect? My grandmother used to say, 鈥渢reat those how you wish to be treated鈥�, even if they have black teeth.She was a social worker.
