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There comes a time in our lives that we have to make decisions we鈥檙e not certain about. At the moment I am going through the 鈥楾o Date or To Shag鈥�, which has me confused no end.

There are benefits to doing both straightaway. 鈥楾o Shag鈥� is self-explanatory. You may have one or two nights rolling in the hay, with lightning flashing around the bedroom, but does it last? I know some boyfriends who have lasted for years after one night of hot passion. But with many of us, as soon as the awkward goodbye is exchanged, both ships have sailed.

Sometimes a friendship blossoms from the situation but most of the time a courtesy smile across the bar then 30 minutes of whispering to your friends is all you get.

Can you build your life on just these moments of passion?

鈥楾o Date鈥� is a much different story. I love to date boys.

I try to make each date different and exciting, trying to do something we haven鈥檛 done before (outside of the bedroom). The accidental/ purposeful touch of a hand or leg that seems to send electricity through your body, being able to look them in the eyes as they talk to you. Learning they can鈥檛 eat nuts, or you both don鈥檛 eat fish unless it鈥檚 from Bondi and served with a side of chips.

Working in the industry I do, these experiences seem to be what I鈥檓 searching for, but the roll in the hay at some point is a part of it also.

The 鈥楾o Date鈥� sometimes backfires. It seems I get the same or a similar speech, usually at the end of a meal.
鈥淚 have had so much fun with you, I鈥檝e never laughed so much as I do with you. But I think I just want to be friends.鈥�

Is there a line you have to watch out for? I thought the point of getting to know someone was to laugh and have fun. When does it start to become more friends than anything else?

Ultimately you are attracted to the person, so would it have been better to just shag?

And if I really like the guy, I have to walk away at this stage. To sit with your 鈥榥ew鈥� friend as be recounts fabulous encounters with others can be too much to handle. And once again you are labelled the 鈥榝unny friend鈥�.

As inviting as the shag sounds, I think I鈥檓 going to still go with the date for a little longer. I have faith that one day our gay boys will see that slow and steady really does win the race. And you can be assured the race will be a lot more fun.