Not long after I鈥檇 lost my lesbian-virginity my more experienced lady friend swung me a couple of lesbian sex books 鈥� a comprehensive 鈥榟ow to鈥� guide and some hardcore erotic fiction.
I鈥檓 not sure if she was saying I was pretty average in the sack or if she took pleasure in shocking me, but these books certainly opened my eyes to the potential of what two girls, or even more, could get up to.
As someone who strives to excel in all areas of life, I took it upon myself to memorise and master the content of these books, just as if I were cramming for an exam. To be honest, I found 70 percent of the chapters about as stimulating as a chemistry textbook, but I figured topics like dildo-sucking and anal-fisting must be a mega turn-on for some ladies so I鈥檇 better prepare myself. While I鈥檇 dutifully mastered the art of oral sex, I really didn鈥檛 need to be told I鈥檇 been 鈥渄evouring her sweet spicy nectar鈥�. Ewww.
I was left wondering who actually did this shit and started going through all the lesbian couples I knew in my head. Even these days I wonder which of my friends have tried 101 love-making positions or engage in marathon tantric sex. Reading these books can make even the most adventurous chick feel a tad vanilla.
Over the years I鈥檝e come to the theory that most couples try things once, crack up laughing (or in unfortunate cases injure themselves), then go back to the usual tricks that get their lover over the line. But like any thrill ride, the fun is in the risk-taking.
Lesbian sex books are awesome for discovering what gets you off and expanding your repertoire. They can also be quite reaffirming in the sense that that weird little thing that turns you on isn鈥檛 so weird after all 鈥� it鈥檚 in a book so clearly you鈥檙e not the only freak.
As a baby dyke I found the books helpful in figuring out my 鈥榬ole鈥� in sexual encounters 鈥� the top/bottom, butch/femme kind of stuff. While the idea of a role has become less important over time, it鈥檚 handy to have a language to refer to sexual dynamics. They don鈥檛 teach you this shit in school 鈥� and that鈥檚 probably for the best 鈥� but can you imagine how popular high school libraries would be if they did?
