Comments on: OPINION: Three’s a crowd /opinion/opinion-threes-a-crowd/111018 Setting Australia’s LGBTI agenda since 1979 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 04:48:08 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.5 By: Maeve /opinion/opinion-threes-a-crowd/111018#comment-117553 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 04:48:08 +0000 https://starobserver.com.au/?p=111018#comment-117553 In reply to Jess.

Exactly, Jess. Mostly, I think the judgment is an indication of people’s own fears and insecurities. If genuine harm has been done (eg partner abuse), then I can understand friends getting involved. But when someone just chooses to leave, how is it anyone else’s business?

]]> By: margot gordon /opinion/opinion-threes-a-crowd/111018#comment-117552 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 04:35:34 +0000 https://starobserver.com.au/?p=111018#comment-117552 something I notice about myself is that I can fall into the trap of judging people on ‘how’ they break up. The ‘why’ doesn’t bother me as I regard it as natural for humans to move on and want to be intimate with others but I seem to really mind about how ethical we are when doing the breaking up. Are we passive aggressive and do we withhold affection until our partner is forced to take a stance on our behalf and end the relationship, for instance? Are we able to be honest? Can we risk hurting the other by stating our true feelings about someone else? Can we admit to wanting both, the security and love within the familiar and the erotica within the new?
i observe that it invariably is our dishonesty OR our inability to respect and honour truth, however much it hurts that creates schisms for our friends thereby encouraging them to take sides. It is really up to us to prevent what you have written about, Maeve
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]]> By: Jess /opinion/opinion-threes-a-crowd/111018#comment-117549 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 01:52:19 +0000 https://starobserver.com.au/?p=111018#comment-117549 I was absolutely shocked at the responses and reactions I witnessed after breaking up with my partner of 10 years! From tears to sadness and, most shockingly, anger I wonder to this day why the perceived failure of my relationship (I regard it as more of a logical ending) was considered to be so shocking and disappointing by friends and strangers alike. I can only conclude that it prompts people to reflect on their own relationship insecurities. I wish people could be more respectful of an obviously well thought through decision to end a relationship and, if they really can’t get their head around it, to please keep their judgements to themselves.

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