Gerry North, Author at Star Observer

The truth about lies and secrets

Gerry North — Wed, 26 Mar 2014 04:54:24 +0000

ARE you tempted to check his or her phone, email or Facebook account? If you are thinking about it, or doing it, the relationship is already in trouble. You are ...

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The makings of a sex addict

Gerry North — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 06:24:01 +0000

IT is the week after Mardi Gras. You may have partied hard. You may have taken it easy. Gerry North explores a different form of partying. Let’s face it, there is ...

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Getting older and happier in the gay world

Gerry North — Mon, 27 Jan 2014 05:48:28 +0000

I REMEMBER coming to Sydney after splitting up from a long-term relationship – dumped, actually – thinking: “That’s it, I’m done at 37.” I have often heard 30-year-olds saying 30 ...

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When you want more than one man in the bedroom

Gerry North — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 00:20:26 +0000

MORE than 50 per cent of gay couples coming for counselling want to discuss having sex outside their relationship. Gay men need to negotiate this issue maturely, as having sex ...

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Be gay and happy this festive season

Gerry North — Tue, 24 Dec 2013 00:58:34 +0000

YOU waited all year for it to reach a conclusion and soon you will be able to put your feet up, your mind at rest and work can go to ...

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Preventative Counselling Gets Going While Going is Good

Gerry North — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 20:13:37 +0000

Ask any couples counsellor and they will tell you, partners mostly come way too late wanting to fix their relationship. Despite hearing unhealthy noises for a long time, couples chose ...

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COLUMN: Are you really gay?

Gerry North — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 23:00:30 +0000

We all remember when we first came out, to ourselves and then to the world. We struggled a lot from the age of nine or ten knowing we were same-sex ...

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COLUMN: Finding a gay or lesbian partner using smart phones

Gerry North — Fri, 11 Oct 2013 05:13:32 +0000

I was talking the other day to a lesbian friend who is gorgeous looking, bright and very positive about life, but who is finding it difficult to find a partner. ...

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COLUMN: Internal Conflicts and Gay Relationships

Gerry North — Mon, 30 Sep 2013 01:35:07 +0000

The influence of internal conflicts is often forgotten in couple counselling. George has been in a relationship with Steve for five years. They have great domestic creature comforts, good friends, ...

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COLUMN: Surviving sex outside your relationship

Gerry North — Tue, 27 Aug 2013 07:10:37 +0000

You have met the man you love and the first years have been bliss. You have felt validated by being loved and you have extended your love to him. Then ...

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COLUMN: Being gay, older and happy

Gerry North — Mon, 26 Aug 2013 04:35:54 +0000

When young you heard these words with disbelief from older gays – “you too will get old one day”. Sure enough, time catches up with us all eventually. We remember ...

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COLUMN: Being single can be a tough gig

Gerry North — Tue, 13 Aug 2013 01:21:11 +0000

So you are single and you’ve really tried to seek out a partner the usual ways, only to end up accepting that finding someone is never going to happen. It’s ...

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OPINION: Getting more sex – as easy as counting one to five

Gerry North — Tue, 30 Jul 2013 09:07:12 +0000

If you are in a long-term relationship and wanting more sex it might be as simple as counting to five – research has shown that couples that compliment each other ...

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Throwing away the condom – Are we mad?

Gerry North — Thu, 04 Jul 2013 04:06:53 +0000

There is a frightening and alarming rise in HIV infections in gay Australian men. After all that we’ve learned, after all that we’ve been through, after all of the lives ...

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Five Things Gay Men and Lesbians Can Do to Feel Better About Sex

Gerry North — Wed, 03 Jul 2013 01:07:20 +0000

The opportunity to enjoy sex is one of the great things about being gay. Some people say that being gay means they feel less restricted and more free sexually in ...

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Are we really all mad?

Gerry North — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 01:58:27 +0000

You have heard people say we are all mad, well we are. You must have thought that some people you meet are stark raving mad, when you have no idea what they ...

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Who’s looking at you kid?

Gerry North — Wed, 12 Jun 2013 02:35:25 +0000

In France they built a circular multi storey prison called a Panopticon. In the centre was the watchtower where guards could see out but prisoners could not see in. The ...

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Go on – have a decent argument

Gerry North — Mon, 03 Jun 2013 07:59:46 +0000

Research findings by well-known couple’s therapist John Gottman concluded that couples who argue are more likely to stay together than ones that don’t. Passively shoving personal resentments under the carpet ...

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Being single: is it bad or just great?

Gerry North — Fri, 24 May 2013 02:07:42 +0000

Some of us feel incomplete if we don’t have a partner; meanwhile others rejoice in the freedom of the single life. In any lifetime I personally think it is good ...

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